We all know that friend that went through a break up and is stuck in a cycle. Or maybe you are that friend.

In the labyrinth of life, heartbreak is a powerful force that can leave us feeling lost and broken.

But like any labyrinth, there is a way out. Remember, the journey may be long and challenging, but it can also be transformative.

Here is the Stoics guide for how to deal with heartbreak and Ive provided a writing prompt to help you identify what you want from a potential/current partner.

Stoics Guide for Heartbreak

Step 1: Acknowledge the Pain

Facing heartbreak begins with acknowledging your pain. Socrates once said, "An unexamined life is not worth living." Apply this wisdom to your emotional turmoil.

Reflect on the source of your heartbreak and accept that it has affected you deeply. It's a natural part of the human experience.

Love is always accompanied by Loss.

Step 2: Embrace Stoicism

Stoic philosophy teaches us to focus on what we can control. Recognize that you can't change the past, but you can control your reaction to it.

Practice mindfulness, and remind yourself that your emotions are within your power to manage.

Step 3: Seek Wisdom

Turn to great thinkers like Aristotle, who emphasized the importance of balance and moderation.

Seek wisdom in books, podcasts, or conversations with friends who can offer valuable insights into your situation. Knowledge can be a soothing balm for a wounded soul.

Step 4: Self-Reflection

Ask yourself deep, probing questions about your values, desires, and what you've learned from the experience.

This introspection can lead to personal growth and resilience.

Step 5: Cultivate Resilience

Draw strength from your philosophy and build resilience. Like a tree that grows stronger from withstanding the storms, your character can grow in the face of heartbreak.

Step 6: Connect with Others

Aristotle's philosophy of human flourishing emphasizes the importance of relationships. Reach out to friends or family.

Share your feelings and seek their support. Connection with others can be a powerful source of healing.

Step 7: Forgive and Let Go

"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury." - Marcus Aurelius

Forgiving doesn't mean condoning the hurtful actions, but it allows you to release the burden of resentment.

Step 8: Set New Goals

Aristotle believed that purpose leads to happiness.

After heartbreak, set new goals and find a sense of purpose. Whether it's a career aspiration or a personal passion, having something to strive for can help you move forward.

Step 9: Practice Gratitude

Gratitude, a virtue promoted by philosophers throughout history, can be a powerful healing tool. Each day, reflect on the things you're thankful for. It will help shift your focus from loss to abundance.

Step 10: Embrace Change

Heraclitus wisely said, "Change is the only constant."

Recognize that heartbreak is a catalyst for change. Embrace this change, and with time, you'll discover new opportunities, joys, and a stronger, wiser self.

I encourage you to embark on this transformative journey with an open heart and a curious mind.

The path to healing heartbreak is not a destination but a continuous exploration of the human experience. Embrace it with courage, resilience, and a philosopher's wisdom.

With Love,

Common Man™️